The Rise of Pathological Norms: How Society Is Normalising Narcissism and Victimhood

Over the past two decades, society has seen a troubling shift in cultural values — one that increasingly normalises behaviors once regarded as pathological. Among the most prominent of these is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), along with the broader trends of victim mentality and excessive self-focus.

Narcissistic traits — entitlement, lack of empathy, and a grandiose sense of self-importance — were once clearly identified as dysfunctional. Today, however, they’re often mistaken for confidence, self-love, or empowerment. Social media has played a key role, rewarding attention-seeking and performative behavior. Platforms that once promised connection have become stages for self-promotion, reinforcing validation through likes and followers rather than genuine relationships.

At the same time, the culture of victimhood has emerged as a kind of moral currency. While acknowledging real trauma is vital, the weaponisation of victim status can distort accountability and maturity. It fosters a mindset where personal growth is replaced by blame, and where criticism is often labeled as abuse.

Narcissistic personality disorder, traditionally rare and disruptive, now blends more subtly into mainstream behavior. Traits like manipulativeness, emotional exploitation, and hypersensitivity to perceived slights are increasingly seen not as red flags but as justified reactions in an overly individualistic society. The shift toward therapeutic language in everyday conversation, while often helpful, can also blur the lines between mental health awareness and the rationalisation of toxic traits.

Ultimately, we risk creating a society where self-centeredness is rewarded, responsibility is shunned, and interpersonal empathy erodes. To counter this, we must re-center humility, accountability, and community — not just in private life, but in the narratives we collectively celebrate. Recognising the difference between healthy self-expression and pathological self-absorption is essential for a balanced, compassionate future.