When Narcissists Behave Like Toddlers: Understanding Narcissism

A narcissist expects the authority of a king while having the accountability of a toddler. They demand unquestioned respect, obedience, and admiration as if their word should be law. Yet when it comes to taking responsibility for their actions, they dodge, deflect, and deny at every opportunity.

This contradiction is at the heart of their behaviour. They want control without consequence, power without responsibility, and loyalty without offering the same in return. When they make mistakes, they find someone else to blame. When they hurt others, they dismiss it, minimise it, or act as though they are the real victim. Their sense of entitlement allows them to believe they should be above criticism, yet their fragile ego means they cannot tolerate even the mildest accountability.

This creates a constant double standard: you are expected to follow their rules, while they live by none. You are held responsible for their emotions, while they refuse to own their choices. Over time, this dynamic can leave you drained, confused, and doubting yourself.

True authority comes with responsibility, but a narcissist avoids that truth. Recognising this imbalance is key to breaking free and reclaiming your power.